Is there one event or a small mishap / mistake in the past that you wished it has not happened? Perhaps you had that one decision or choice of actions in the years gone by that you now feel regretful about. There is that “What if…and then…” statements fighting in your mind. So, How to move on?
First, stop! Take a deep breath and stop worrying. Overthinking is not gonna lead you anywhere. It gives nothing but stress, unhealthy habits and analysis paralysis.
First Step: Embrace the Past
Here is my story:
Twenty years ago upon graduating senior high, I wrote in our yearbook that I am going to be a Computer Engineer. Twist of fate, I have taken up Accountancy, a course that I have basically no clue but I had to take based on a sponsorship. True enough, well I passed and have become a licensed Certified Accountant and an associate member now in Australia.
But “Victory isn’t glorious without the pain. Success without toil is futile.”
I did not believe in these lines at first. My old belief is that successful people are born not made. I am here on earth to be good, not to compete. I think that – most of the time, when people are striving for the best, they also nurture their worst. Call it a mediocre notion but I don’t see anything wrong with it. Maybe having a competitive attitude is just not me. Well, for one – I am a Libra! A person who always strives for balance and harmony around me. To be a better version of myself daily is something I just realised recently. In fact, the lines of Steve Jobs saying – “Stay hungry, stay foolish” was not in my radar.
True enough, when it was time for me to take the licensure exam for Accountants straight after graduating from the University, I was unsuccessful. I failed miserably five times. Yes, I know – it is very embarrassing! Most especially that we were only given three chances to take it. Uh-huh! What I did was beyond what was allowed. With this, I have dishonoured my school, who used to tell us – “Please if you feel it is not meant for you, don’t do it. We have a reputation and good national rankings to maintain.” I am honestly sorry to my alma matter if I have disgraced her but I’m convinced now that persistence has a reward.
Second Step: Move On and Persist
It takes a decision to move on! It will be a promise to yourself to change something you can alter or maybe to accept that which you cannot. Hence in moving on, they say,
“It doesn’t matter how slow you go, as long as you don’t stop.”
In my journey to being a licensed Accountant, I even took a refresher course so I can have another chance to take the exam after three failures. In all honesty, it’s taking a lot of courage in me until today, for me to share this part of my life. Imagine everyday for another four years of my life after the University, working and studying at the same time. It was an agony and a soul-searching moment about my purpose for pursuing the license.
But to be successful in everything that we do, we must persevere and never quit.
I am convinced that about half of what separates the successful from the non successful ones is pure perseverance. – Steve Jobs.
Initially, I actually cannot find any reason why I am doing it. Until I just decided to set my eyes on the prize. Not for its glory, but for the sake of finishing the journey I have started.
Exactly as this line states:
Everyone who commits to win, practices self-discipline in everything. The runners compete to get a crown of leaves that shrivel up and die, but we do it to receive a crown that never dies. – 1 Corinthians 9:25
Third: Be Grateful
So what’s the prize for it all? It isn’t that now I am a Certified Public Accountant. Guess what? It’s that discipline and confidence I developed after it and the faith it gave me to believe that I can achieve things that seemed to be unattainable.
You cannot connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. – Steve Jobs
The experience brought me to places unimagined and brought me to an environment of people that are achievers in their own right as well. As a matter of fact, I did not see it possible in my case to have been able to successfully migrate to Australia without it. I shared here in my other post that coming to Australia is hard with its requirements being so high and license was compulsory.
Over time, I learned to see the relevance of everything that has happened in my life. Looking back, I don’t regret about anything anymore.
I am certain that while embracing my past is the first step to being free; On the other hand, the secret to having a happy life is accepting the fact that – “We can never have a perfect life, but we can always choose to be thankful for what we have attained through time.”
Moving forward, let me leave you with this quote –
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. – Steve Jobs
So, yes, this is my story of success and journey to self-discovery and happiness. I know you too have your own beautiful chapters in life. We all do. Sometimes we just forget to ponder on it and acknowledge the beauty for our own story. Be grateful for all your experiences – good or bad. They shape us into who we are now, but they do not define our future. It is what you decide today that determines your tomorrow.
How do you want your story to be five years from now? Write it. How do you want to be remembered? Draw or Paint it.
I wish you all the best,
Email me your requests for future posts at Lyn@LynDurante.com
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- Get Over Your Damn Self: The No-BS Blueprint to Building a Life-Changing Business
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